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29-04.-2006, 03:18 PM
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Racing to win or have fun?
I've got a shy 14 year old racer with lots of talent, who's too nice, and has no aggression. I've also got two younger racers who take after him. I wish I could see more fire in their approach to racing, but it looks like the "kids should have fun" approach is an easy justification for not winning. Any ideas for helping them develop the mental competitive edge?
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30-04.-2006, 12:33 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
I would say to be careful with pressure to perform. Sounds like me and swimming, I was always one of the fastest on the team, but never the fastest – in other words the slowest fast guy – and that was because I didn’t have the “killer instinct” at least not on a full time basis. Competitive yes, with a little pressure, I may have not missed going to Nationals by .01 of a second. I’ve seen a lot of kids get pushed hard by parents and it just gets ugly for everyone…
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16-05.-2006, 11:55 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
I know with me (19 years old) I wish I would have picked up competitive cycling like my uncle wanted me to a long time ago. But no, I was too cool for that spandex ballet stuff, and would much rather be cannonballing off a ledge or down a hill on either my mountain bike or hitting the streets in town on my bmx bike.
where did that get me? no where, had I started earlier, then by the time I made my way to college I could have been decent, and Indiana University (hell yeah for the hoosiers)/Bloomington, Indiana in general treats it's cyclists pretty well from what I can tell. I think the best bet is to first ask your kid why he rides. Like the post above this said, the worst thing is to push them too hard, but still try and convince them that even if it's not the coolest thing right now, it gets you somewhere. Once you start to get older, the girls go for cyclists, shaved legs and all. People respect cyclists (granted there's a few jerks who yell stuff from cars and such), the desire, the dedication, the passion...everything about it. I can say that I've hung up my Schwinn Hydromatic (for sale if anyone wants it) for good now, and am very happy shaving the engines (legs) a couple times of week and proudly don the spandex for trips into town.
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18-05.-2006, 08:52 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
You should ask very carefully what you mean by "too nice." I am not sure that I would place that in the pejorative. Also, instead of looking at it as "aggression," I would reframe it as "assertiveness." There is no negative connotation to being assertive; but being aggressive is frankly antisocial.
For me, being a "nice" guy, I have often had problems in bike races in getting to the front, riding confidently, and generally mixing it up with the faster riders, where I belong. I know that one thing that has really helped me a lot is to cease looking at it as an aggressive behaviour that I needed to cultivate in order to win, but to look at it instead as a technique. Getting to the front, picking the right wheel, knocking about in a sprint, taking fast turns competently, those are all techniques which can be worked on. If you take the things that your 14 year old is afraid of, and work on them with him, and emphasize them as technical components of bike racing, then I think you will see a huge leap in results.
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21-05.-2006, 11:19 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
DUDE!!! the kid is 14... not old enough to drive yet. He or she is still trying to figure out what is up with all this hair growing on my body... Besides... the desire to win comes from hunger not aggression. You need to figure out what will make them hungry. Satisfying that hunger is what will make it fun.
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23-05.-2006, 01:47 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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I second that motion! When you do it that way you can grow a champion. Using aggression just makes another a--hole, sure they may be formidible competators, but really... HR |
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25-05.-2006, 05:17 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
Unless you think they can make a career out of cycling and a little (or moderate) push will truly help them, don't push them. There are more stories of parents/coaches pushing children in sports and kids giving the sport up then...posts on doping in these forums
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25-05.-2006, 11:42 AM
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Absolutely... there is a difference between winning a race by beating everyone and winning a race because you rose above everyone else. |
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29-05.-2006, 01:30 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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LOL - and that is a sour lot too!!! HR |
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01-06.-2006, 06:17 PM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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Just chuck them into the deep end of the pool. I'm not sure about cycling, but in tennis back when i was playing juniors, my coach decided to push me into the open categories. So i'll be this 15 year old up against players around age 28 yrs old. Kinda forced me to step up and bring in the "A" game, just to prove i'm not there to fill in the numbers. but of course, i had other mental problems as a result such as a devil may care attitude towards the game such as going for broke. 
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30-06.-2006, 11:33 PM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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When does this happen, cause I haven't seen it yet. |
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01-07.-2006, 12:47 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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Common allow the kid to have his illusions  Actually while I lived in Brasil I got a lot of attention from the ladies when I was riding... it was weird. But in the US, I can't say that ladies give that much attention to you on the bike... I rely on off the bike for that  |
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02-07.-2006, 12:34 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
I assume that the attention was positive in Brasil?
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03-07.-2006, 08:08 PM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
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Bribery. Worked for me when I was 14... :-) |
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04-07.-2006, 07:34 AM
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Re: Racing to win or have fun?
I think it is highly regrettable how John asks a perfectly legitimate question, and gets nothing but silly answers. Some of you even start talking about your own wasted talent and wasted childhood, and lotsa what if arguments which is so archetypically losers. Make your own loser thread. I am gonna give a decent reply to what John could do, in order not to waste his precious little boy's talent.
Basic psychology tells us that people live according to their life scripts, and that these are based on parental programming. Parents pass on to them what they have learned or what they think they have learned. If they are losers, they will pass on their loser's programming, and if they are winners, then they will pass on that kinda program. Well, here's what: seeing that you seem to value competitiveness, and that your kids ain't- it tells me a couple of things. Surely, from twin analysis, we know that upbringing ain't all. But fact is that your spouse probably has more influence on your kids than you do. Solution: get rid of your spouse. Next problem, you gotta give the kid incentives to win. Obviously, the little brat is happy just as it is, in balance, feels good with himself and all that crap- which ain't necessarily a good foundation to build a winner on. A mental winner perhaps, but not a real winner getting his name on athletic shoe ads and bringing in cash for your retirement. Seeing as they are probably spoiled enough already, you have to punish them more. Try giving them a gentle slap if they don't try hard enough. A slap in front of friends is especially humiliating. If he makes any gesture that he is happy with just a podium finish- NO dinner. (Added bonus that they will stay slim. Staying slim is hard enough for pros- ask Ja.. no, maybe not.) This might make your kids a little careful around you, but after all- you wanna be DAD and not a buddy, right? Right? |
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