If you're paranoid that every posting is a spammer, and you don't want to chat, why on earth are you reading this General forum?
Maybe you're more suited to other areas of the forum.
Ummmmm...maybe because this is the BIKE CAFE?!?!? The section where you post whatever you feel like is called "Your Bloody Soapbox" You may want to try actually reading the subforums before you post. Plus, let's see....brand new member to a CYCLING forum...first posts have nothing to do with cycling but have a link to a speed dating site, hmmmm. Nope...you're right, I am being paranoid