All you need to do is a bit of searching online and you'll find a wealth of information on saddle design and why soft tissue contact should be minimized. Yes, sitting on bone will make you saddle sore until you get used to it, just as there is some level of discomfort associated with any form of exercise until your body adapts. Current saddle designs are the result of over a century of evolution; there's a reason they're shaped the way they are. There's also a reason why no major manufacturer of quality saddles tries to reduce sitz bone pressure by increasing pressure on soft tissue. If you think you're saddle sore now, just wait until you put in some miles sitting on mainly skin and muscle!
That said, there's a lot of physical variation between cyclists and the demands for different types of cycling affect saddle requirements, too, which is why there are so many saddle choices on the market. It took me several years and a lot of experimenting with saddles before I finally figured out what works for me, but you can shortcut that process somewhat. I suggest you find a good bike fitter who will measure your bone width to determine your ideal saddle width, assess your flexibility and discuss the type of riding you do. These days, bike shops often have saddle rental or test programs that allow you to try a few to determine what works best for you. Of course, you can experiment all you want, but your current approach will most likely fail miserably and waste a fair amount of time, compared to getting help from a professional.