I have heard this.. and its nonsense. YOu don't see other pro athletes do this... football players, marathon runners, etc. And we are talking total wannabes here not actual pros. I mean these people shave their legs to save a few ounces or be more aero.. .all while sporting large stomachs.. .its completely ridiculous. I am overweight as well... but I am not spending $90 on a carbon drink bottle cage to save 20 grams... I'll drink 3 fewer beers on friday and save the cash.
Pro race car drivers dont shave their eyebrows in case they get in a fiery wreck do they? The whole thing is total b.s.
I guess we all draw the line somewhere... I mean I used to think I'd never get a road bike.. and I got one. I used to think I'd never go with clipless pedals and shoes, but I am getting them. I still don't do the power meeter, I don't wear the lycra, I don't have the aero bars, and I won't ever shave my legs. I don't think of myself as a "cyclist" but a guy who enjoys riding a bike.
As for the snobbery of it... this activity (not sport- we ride bikes not race them and riding bikes is not a sport) is chock full of poseurs. Matching shorts and jerseys, authentic team kit, its really embarassing. And a lot of these guys aren't even strong riders. They often dont take a pull at the front, have no idea about riding in a group... completely ignore basic rules of traffic, etc. Of course I am generalizing. I also meet plenty of regular joes on every major event I have ever done. And plenty of people share food, drink, a spare tube, a C02 charge, etc. Not every one is a jerk...but there are a lot of them.
I am glad there are some nice ones, I have met a couple of friendly people, but I do love seeing people that think they are brilliant when they are clearly not. Ha ha, wish I could get away with not shaving my legs! Like you say, I am just riding, I am not a cyclist, I am trying to be healthier as my lifestyle sucked so I thought cycling would be great but am getting put off by territorial a$$holes