That made me chuckle a bit, when I read the title.
Women tend to have a longer leg length to total body length than males. However, there are exceptions. Most frames are designed accordingly, and there are exceptions to that too.
Most bike frames for men are made "square" (top tube length = seat tube length), or with a top tube slightly longer than the seat tube.
Fore-aft seat tube positioning must not be used to compensate a wrong-sized top tube.
Proper seat tube position is when a plumb line through your kneecap intersects with the pedal axle, with the foot on the pedal and the crankarms are horizontal (measuring knee to axle with crank at the 3 0'clock position).
If the top tube is too long or too short, you can try to compensate with a different stem length, or change bikes. To check for proper stem length, a plumb-line from your nose should arrive about 1 inch (25mm) behind the handlebar.
But first, make sure that your seat height is correct. To determine this, place yourself near a wall or something you can use for support, while on your bike. Place your heels on the pedals, and pedal backwards. Have a friend look at your hips from behind while you do this. The correct seat height, is the highest, pedalling backwards in comfort, without your hips rocking. Your hips should remain horizontal to each other. Another way, is to place your crankarms vertical, and with a foot in the bottom position, there should be a slight bend in your knee. But the former method is more reliable.
So, here are the steps in order, following instructions above:
1. make sure you have proper seat height
2. adjust seat fore-aft position
3. get the right stem length to feel comfortable. if you need a stem that seems too short or too long, consider a different bike - a top tube length that is too long will be hard to fit, will have less nimble handling, and will give an improper fire-aft weight distribution. same with a top tube that is too short (but that is less common).
It can take some searching to find a pre-manufactured (as opposed to custom made) bike that has the right proportions. If you need a new frame, check out the frame specs before buying. Compare with your model - better yet if you have another bike that feels right, as a starting point.
The proper frame, with the proper fit, will always feel right. It will just feel natural, as it should, because the bike is to be an extension of the rider's body, and make one with it.