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> Plodder Wrote:
> >
> > Same old response - think of the family. But family responses vary
> > enormously from a recent case here of someone pleading for leniency for
> > the
> > driver of a car in which their son died in a street drag racing crash
> > to
> > other families baying for blood. OK, you might think it's ineffective
> > and
> > lopsided, but all you're really saying is that if it was you in that
> > situation you'd react in a certain way. You can't know how any other
> > family
> > is or would react.
>
>
> Apologies to Jock if this is out of context, but his wife was run over
> in March 05 by a driver on a clear roadway. To you, his opinion may not
> have legal standing or it may not change the situation, but he's bloody
> well entitled to his POV.
>
>
> --
> cfsmtb
Agreed. But it's HIS POV and his alone. My gripe is that people (often but
not always) erroneously judge 'justice' and misplaced sympathy for family;
perhaps in an effort to justify their view of the court's determinations. By
all means express, hold, argue and debate a POV but own it. Attributing the
feelings engendered by a personal POV to others is misplaced. "If I was in
that situation, I'd feel such and such" is OK. "They are in that situation
and will/should be feeling the same as I would" is not.
I have sympathy for Jock - it would be a shocking event to have to deal
with. I would have a lot of trouble working a similar situation through. My
heart goes out. Nevertheless I will always try (not always succeed - I'm no
more perfect than anyone else) to let him have his feelings without
pronouncing how he should feel. I know the hurt that can produce.
Cheers,
Frank