O.K. I shall try and *explain*, just ONE THING in this thread. ( To
start ... )
I will talk about my own situation, as it is easier for you to be
objective about it without emotional involvent.
I also have an issue with the ' performance ' of one of my former
psychiatrists. The context is similar to T1's in one sense and just
as bad as T1's in another; yet opposite sense. It amounts to the same
situation, overall.
For very good reasons, I am told to "give it up"; to walk away from it
....
Actually, I would be delighted to walk away.
I cannot afford to do, so. Impossible.
I am caught in this impossible bind. ... If I surrender, which is
impossible for me, anyhow ... I could move forward in life. ... I
cannot surrender. .. I cannot let go; even if my life depended upon
it.
People in my life, wisely urge me to "surrender". I am being
unreasonable. It is futile. My course of action is a recipe for
disaster.
I REJECT THAT ... The person who is advising me is ramming their
opinion down my throat. That person is demanding that I eat their
words and accept it as the "truth", as reality, as final.
Sorry. No. I cannot. .. To do so, would destroy my sense of self ...
It would destroy my future. Sorry. No.
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What I have described is a 'Perceptual Illusion'. ... It is NOT how
reality "is". It is how reality is perceived to be by "me", the Raving
Loonie.
Those who view me, perceive me to be stubborn, stuck, .. acting
tragically and catrastrophically in my own regard. Yep.
They are also being held prisoner by the SAME perceptual illusion that
keeps me captive.
What is the maddening illusion? ... Why is it happening? ... What can
be done about it?
Step #1 ... Why is it happening?
When you can appreciate what is happening, you can recognize the
situation. ... Eventually, you can escape the trap.
Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go.
Perspective "B" ... RL must let go.
There is a contradiction, here.
Remember the T. V. game show, Jeopardy?
A game of Petitio Princippi ( Begging the question )
Here is the answer. What is the question? ... it is considered to be
a logical falicy.
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Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go.
Perspective "B" ... RL must let go.
... is a perceptual falicy. It is a trick of perspective; a trick
of perception.
The answer is being 'begged'. It is unecessary to provide an answer,
NOW.
Becoming more discursive, here ...
A person asks you a question.
Example: Does Clinton deserve to be president for his philandering
with Monica Lewinski ?
Yes or No?
I WANT AN ANSWER. .. A simple yes or no. It's an important question.
The answer exists.
Yes or No, please. ... I will listen to nothing else, right now.
And you have been 'suckered in' without even realizing it. You have
been ticked; ... fooled.
Look what happened!
As soon as a person asks you a question directly ... You "know" that
they expect an answer. You know that an answer exists and you are
being called upon to provide the answer.
Does Clinton deserve to be president for his philandering with Monica
Lewinski ?
Yes or No?
Why do you *need* to answer the question?
Why is the sky, blue?
Does Fred Flinstone like tortillas?
Who am I?
If you are reading what I write and are being receptive to me; you are
allowing me to steer and direct your "awareness"; your attention.
You are allowing me to do that ... You are allowing me to compell you
to provide an answer to a question.
Or you are allowing yourself to assume that an answer is being called
for; is expected to be forthcoming.
.. PURELY ASSUMED. No answer is expected. No answer is
necessary.
Why is the sky, blue? ... DON'T THINK about the answer.
Does Fred Flinstone like tortillas? ... DON'T THINK about the answer.
Who am I? ... DON'T THINK about the answer.
The answer does NOT necessarily "follow" from a question. For several
reasons, we have a very compelling habit of assuming and insisting that
it should follow.
A conscious effort can be made to withold any consideration of the
'Answer to a question'.
Our natural tendency is to move forward in thought; to tunnel into the
focus of our awareness... or "Answer the question".
No need.
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Returning to the 2 points of view.
Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go.
Perspective "B" ... RL must let go.
I can look at each perspective as asking a question and thence
immediately "Answering it"
As in ...
Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go.
Rolled out and speaking to self:
a) Question: "Here is the situation with my former psychiatrist.. ...
pain, agnony, *choking*, anger ..."
b) Answer: "This is really how it is. It's important. I cannot
write it off "
* * *
Perspective "B" ... RL must let go.
Rolled out and speaking to "self" as a friend who knows RL ...
a) Question: "RL is saying that his former psychiatrist is the source
of his problems. .. RL is mired, stuck, emotional, re-acting
intensely, strained, utterly stuck. RL doesn't make sense. He is
preoccupied with his ex psychiatrist.
b) Answer: "This is a bad scene. Remaining stuck is going to drag him
into certain disaster. He is irrational. .. He is behaving like
someone who is mentally unwell. He needs help. He needs to be led or
coerced out of this certain loosing situation. He must accept it. He
must be convinced.
* * *
In both perspectives A and B, the question is the "observing of the
situation " ...
In RL's case ( Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go. ) it is looking
back at his former psychiatrist. It's looking at how people view RL
and his response to his former psychiatrist. It's looking at how people
view his former psychiatrist.
In the case of those who perceive RL ( Perspective "B" ... RL must let
go. ) RL is struggling and failing while expert, caring, honest and
effective people are trying to help him.
I shall refrain from describing the follow on; the "Answer".
Perspective "A" ... RL cannot let go.
I can appreciate that others perceive this of me. I can accept that
they don't undertand.
.. I CAN PARK THE "THIOUGHT" FOR NOW. ... I do not need to follow
through on it at this instant. .. I do NOT need to draw any
conclusions at this moment.
IN FACT, drawing conclusions just makes life very difficult for me; ..
just gives me a headache. *Hopefully*, I will be better able to
address the situation in the future.
Cordially,
RL