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OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:

> > >
> > > So ya think Mr. "wrong" learned anything?
> > >
>>. From what I hear, he moved out
> > of state when she was 8 months preg and has a new girl in his new city.
>
> Oh lord...
> He's going to remain forever broke paying child support if he keeps THAT
> up! What an idiot!

Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??


> >
> >
> > I do feel sorry for his kid, though. It's never fair for a kid to start
> > out on this planet with 1 parent absent by selfish choice.
>
> I dunno... Better an absent parent than an uncaring one? <sigh>
> Which is the lesser of two evils?

Unfortunately, my daughter's father is the same kind of schmuck. Walked
out of our committed relationship as soon as the stick turned blue.
Made me get paternity tests. Still - 9 years later - has never added
his name to her birth certificate. (Court ordered child support
anyways, after he made us get DNA tested. Idiot! ) He visits her 2 - 3
times a year, if she's lucky. She pines for him every minute. Always
wishes he were here for things like school performances, birthdays,
kindergarten graduation, etc.

She has actually been diagnosed by a therapist as having "abandonment
issues", after the school counselor observed signs of depression in her
around the holidays. (I had too, but never thought of them as more than
the blues.) She's terribly jealous of the kids who get to see Daddy
every other weekend.


>
> Hopefully she will get lucky and find Mr. Right, and someone who is
> willing to be a dad to her kid.
>

Luckily for us, that seems to be what we've finally found. She told him
last year on father's day "you're a better daddy than my real daddy."
And for me, I've been a single mom since she was born. He's the first
one who's actually lived with us and become part of the household. We
call ourselves a family. And I tell you, it's a thousand times
easier/happier than doing it on my own.


Life hands out crazy stuff, doesn't it? Personally, I believe this is
the karma/payback/whatever for being a good person, living
conscientiously. It's finally found its way back around to me.
 
Jude wrote on 28 Feb 2006 in rec.food.cooking

> Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
> committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
> than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??
>

A kid costs you for around 20 yrs...a ex wife costs you forever and 1 day.
What with the support payments, the division of property (loss of pention
etc.

A kid if you get attached at least give you back stuff...love, sense of
purpose etc...A ex wife just gives you heartburn, and anger.

Do I seem bitter to you?

--
-Alan
 
Mr Libido Incognito wrote:
> Jude wrote on 28 Feb 2006 in rec.food.cooking
>
> > Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
> > committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
> > than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??
> >
>
> A kid costs you for around 20 yrs...a ex wife costs you forever and 1 day.
> What with the support payments, the division of property (loss of pention
> etc.
>
> A kid if you get attached at least give you back stuff...love, sense of
> purpose etc...A ex wife just gives you heartburn, and anger.
>
> Do I seem bitter to you?
>
Just a touch. Sorry yours sucked.

But remember, this guy never actually MARRIED them. Just loved em and
left em. No ex-wives for him. As a matter of fact, no wives for him.
I'm guessing the reason he left the preg woman was becasue she wanted
to get married. Same reason he left the ex before me.

But the kid - he can't just up and move and run away from the kid.
Courts nowadays are pretty good atmaking you pay.
 
In article <[email protected]>,
"Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:

> OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:
>
> > > >
> > > > So ya think Mr. "wrong" learned anything?
> > > >
> >>. From what I hear, he moved out
> > > of state when she was 8 months preg and has a new girl in his new city.
> >
> > Oh lord...
> > He's going to remain forever broke paying child support if he keeps THAT
> > up! What an idiot!
>
> Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
> committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
> than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??

Obviously not. ;-)
OB food, be sure to bake her a baby shower cake...... ;-D

>
>
> > >
> > >
> > > I do feel sorry for his kid, though. It's never fair for a kid to start
> > > out on this planet with 1 parent absent by selfish choice.
> >
> > I dunno... Better an absent parent than an uncaring one? <sigh>
> > Which is the lesser of two evils?
>
> Unfortunately, my daughter's father is the same kind of schmuck. Walked
> out of our committed relationship as soon as the stick turned blue.
> Made me get paternity tests. Still - 9 years later - has never added
> his name to her birth certificate. (Court ordered child support
> anyways, after he made us get DNA tested. Idiot! ) He visits her 2 - 3
> times a year, if she's lucky. She pines for him every minute. Always
> wishes he were here for things like school performances, birthdays,
> kindergarten graduation, etc.

:-( Poor kid.

>
> She has actually been diagnosed by a therapist as having "abandonment
> issues", after the school counselor observed signs of depression in her
> around the holidays. (I had too, but never thought of them as more than
> the blues.) She's terribly jealous of the kids who get to see Daddy
> every other weekend.

That's sad.
Does he have any idea?

>
>
> >
> > Hopefully she will get lucky and find Mr. Right, and someone who is
> > willing to be a dad to her kid.
> >
>
> Luckily for us, that seems to be what we've finally found. She told him
> last year on father's day "you're a better daddy than my real daddy."
> And for me, I've been a single mom since she was born. He's the first
> one who's actually lived with us and become part of the household. We
> call ourselves a family. And I tell you, it's a thousand times
> easier/happier than doing it on my own.

Oh that's great! :)
Sounds then like things are going in the right direction.
How old is she?

>
>
> Life hands out crazy stuff, doesn't it? Personally, I believe this is
> the karma/payback/whatever for being a good person, living
> conscientiously. It's finally found its way back around to me.

I understand what you mean.......

>
--
Peace, Om.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-*****." -Jack Nicholson
 
In article <[email protected]>,
Mr Libido Incognito <[email protected]> wrote:

> Jude wrote on 28 Feb 2006 in rec.food.cooking
>
> > Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
> > committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
> > than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??
> >
>
> A kid costs you for around 20 yrs...a ex wife costs you forever and 1 day.
> What with the support payments, the division of property (loss of pention
> etc.
>
> A kid if you get attached at least give you back stuff...love, sense of
> purpose etc...A ex wife just gives you heartburn, and anger.
>
> Do I seem bitter to you?

You've been hurt.
I'm so sorry...........
--
Peace, Om.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-*****." -Jack Nicholson
 
In article <[email protected]>,
"Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:

> Mr Libido Incognito wrote:
> > Jude wrote on 28 Feb 2006 in rec.food.cooking
> >
> > > Agreed 100%. This was a guy who was - by his own words - afraid of
> > > committment. Doesn't he realize that a kid is a WAAAY huger committment
> > > than any girlfriend/wife cuold ever be??
> > >
> >
> > A kid costs you for around 20 yrs...a ex wife costs you forever and 1 day.
> > What with the support payments, the division of property (loss of pention
> > etc.
> >
> > A kid if you get attached at least give you back stuff...love, sense of
> > purpose etc...A ex wife just gives you heartburn, and anger.
> >
> > Do I seem bitter to you?
> >
> Just a touch. Sorry yours sucked.
>
> But remember, this guy never actually MARRIED them. Just loved em and
> left em. No ex-wives for him. As a matter of fact, no wives for him.
> I'm guessing the reason he left the preg woman was becasue she wanted
> to get married. Same reason he left the ex before me.
>
> But the kid - he can't just up and move and run away from the kid.
> Courts nowadays are pretty good at making you pay.
>

In other words, wear a condom..........
If you don't want commitment, don't create it?
--
Peace, Om.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-*****." -Jack Nicholson
 
OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:


> In other words, wear a condom..........
> If you don't want commitment, don't create it?
> --

There ya go! Bingo!
 
In article <[email protected]>,
"Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:

> OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:
>
>
> > In other words, wear a condom..........
> > If you don't want commitment, don't create it?
> > --
>
> There ya go! Bingo!
>

;-)
--
Peace, Om.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-*****." -Jack Nicholson
 
OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:

> > >>. From what I hear, he moved out
> > > > of state when she was 8 months preg and has a new girl in his new city.
> > >

> OB food, be sure to bake her a baby shower cake...... ;-D
>


Wait, how'd that get to be MY job?!?!?!?



> >
> > She has actually been diagnosed by a therapist as having "abandonment
> > issues", after the school counselor observed signs of depression in her
> > around the holidays. (I had too, but never thought of them as more than
> > the blues.) She's terribly jealous of the kids who get to see Daddy
> > every other weekend.
>
> That's sad.
> Does he have any idea?


He does. As a concession to the therapist, he calls her almost every
week. He's a real prize - he knows that we eat dinner at 7:30, and she
takes a bath and gets ready for bed after that. So most of his calls
are at about 7:15. He knows she has to get off the phone. She's asked
him to call at 6, but he never does. And if we're not home, he refuses
to call the cell phone, which she's asked him to do too. He doesn't
give a ****.


> >
> > Luckily for us, that seems to be what we've finally found. She told him
> > last year on father's day "you're a better daddy than my real daddy."
> > And for me, I've been a single mom since she was born. He's the first
> > one who's actually lived with us and become part of the household. We
> > call ourselves a family. And I tell you, it's a thousand times
> > easier/happier than doing it on my own.
>
> Oh that's great! :)
> Sounds then like things are going in the right direction.
> How old is she?
>

She's 9 now, and in 4th grade. She's loving the fact that she finally
has all she's yearned for..... in her words, a "normal" family!

Aside: in Kindergarten, her 2 best friends, who had younger siblings,
had moms that were pregnant with #3. She was terribly jealous of kids
with siblings, and even other kids who were onlies but had 2 full-time
parents. One of my favorite cries of envy ever..."But all I have isyou.
Even Zachary gets to have TWO mommies!!!"

> >
> > Life hands out crazy stuff, doesn't it? Personally, I believe this is
> > the karma/payback/whatever for being a good person, living
> > conscientiously. It's finally found its way back around to me.
>
> I understand what you mean.......
>
I always believed in general what comes around goes around, but I kept
wondering when my turn would come........
 
In article <[email protected]>,
"Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:

> I always believed in general what comes around goes around, but I kept
> wondering when my turn would come........

All that matters is that it has..... :)
--
Peace, Om.

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-*****." -Jack Nicholson
 
In article <[email protected]>,
"Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:

> Last night's dinner was a little off-putting. It was delicious, but
> somehow the whole meal was basically beige. Every bite was wonderful,
> but the plates just looked blah. Ever have this happen?

A friend of mine used to be a cook in an English school. If the kids
gave him too much trouble he'd make them fish in white sauce, mashed
potatoes and cauliflower.

Miche

--
WWMVD?
 
Miche wrote:
> In article <[email protected]>,
> "Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:
>
> > Last night's dinner was a little off-putting. It was delicious, but
> > somehow the whole meal was basically beige. Every bite was wonderful,
> > but the plates just looked blah. Ever have this happen?
>
> A friend of mine used to be a cook in an English school. If the kids
> gave him too much trouble he'd make them fish in white sauce, mashed
> potatoes and cauliflower.
>
> Miche
>
> --
> WWMVD?

....stack them up and it would be Fish Pie (a bit like cottage pie) :D
 
Miche wrote:

>In article <[email protected]>,
> "Jude" <[email protected]> wrote:
>
>
>
>>Last night's dinner was a little off-putting. It was delicious, but
>>somehow the whole meal was basically beige. Every bite was wonderful,
>>but the plates just looked blah. Ever have this happen?
>>
>>
>
>A friend of mine used to be a cook in an English school. If the kids
>gave him too much trouble he'd make them fish in white sauce, mashed
>potatoes and cauliflower.
>
>Miche
>
>
>
Interesting. My MIL, a legendarily bad English cook, was prone to the
same sort of thing, though she favoured broad beans as well as
cauliflower and they were very pale green. Goes without saying that
everything was cooked to death. Fortunately she's given up cooking and
when we visit her we take her out to lunch at the local pub.

Christine
 
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