Thanks for all the support. It helps a lot and is really appreciated.
bianchi10 said:
...can I ask you a personal question though?
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My friends said they felt the same way and that when they heard the news of their loss, they were sad and dissapointed but more so for their wives since they were taking it so hard. The woman has that connection right away since they are carrying it in them.
SO...other than you being dissapointed. (it sounds like what i have read that your sperm count is low and you are part of why you have had trouble?) do you feel as if you lost a child? (this of course not knowing how far along your wife was each of the 5 times.)
The problem is not my sperm count - one has to get pregnant in order to have a miscarriage, we have no trouble
conceiving, our problem is
carrying.
And yes, I have a connection even as the man since one half of that child's DNA is mine.
Our first attempt lasted about 9 weeks, every attempt after that lasted only about 3-5 weeks. Our OB wants to do some genetic testing to rule out chromosomal incompatibilities. After our last one (before this one), a battery of blood tests also showed that she's carrying an antibody that has been linked to multiple miscarriages, this antibody can be suppressed with low-dose aspirin so she's on a low-dose aspirin regimen, she started this before we tried to conceive. Another test revealed some small uterine fibroids, however, the OB said that they are very small and in an area that's unlikely to interfere with conception and carrying.
This past attempt, after some suspicious spotting started happening, the OB had us go in to have a blood draw for some tests, one of the tests showed a dangerously low hormone level that could trigger a miscarriage and told us what to watch out for, the things to watch for happened over the weekend, so we had another blood draw done Monday, the results of that draw confirmed our worst fear.
Bottom line - there are multiple issues at hand, the problem is that things we need to have done are considered infertility services, which are not covered by insurance.
