Your wife has mentioned SEVERAL times that this woman is pretty, riding with your wife is probably the BEST thing you have said all along!
Originally posted by Giant_racer
awww... I ain't been on here for a while but I sure wish I had some nice guys to help me when I get into trouble on my bike, I still haven't recovered from when some guys in a convertible drove the same speed as me then very close so the guy in the back could grab my butt!!!
Originally posted by Feanor
Ok, followup!
I have to admit, even though I've been married for 12 years I can still be completely clueless about the nuances of married life...
Since I first posted, my riding partner and her husband have been over for dinner... Having read all the warnings and advice in the thread, and knowing in my own heart that my wife IS the only one for me. I tried to refrain from the normal innuendos and such both prompted and unprompted...
No breaking off for private conversations on the deck no matter how innocent, no overly flattering praise, and the lion's share of attention went to my wife... In fact, she was just about the center of attention for the evening for the three of us, which was actually very nice for me anyway. I don;t think I've heard her as "chatty" for a long time.
After they had gone and we were doing the dishes she said almost unconciously "She's so pretty..." and at once, all the messages of this thread came bounding back into my head!
My reply was, "there are other things besides being pretty... its not the end all... of course being pretty inside AND out is the ultimate... that's why I married you after all..."
and Hey! I got a kiss for that! and the best part was it was even the truth! Sometimes I get lucky I suppose...
She asked if we were all going biking this weekend, and it suddenly hit me like ton of bricks! What if she felt self concious because she thought people were comparing her to our friend? and that's why she's been opting out of the rides for quite a while?
I told her I wouldn't go unless she was going, I'm not sure about what she was thinking, but from her body language I think she approved of that happily...
of course it all turned around when I started talking about building a new bike from a Pinarello frame, but hey... one step at a time huh? *laughing* Important things first
Thanks all for all your insights!
Feanor
Originally posted by limerickman
You're married for 12 years but you're clueless about the nuances
of married life !
Hmmmmmm.
You're hell bent on digging your own grave here, pal.
Clueless about the nuances of married life after 12 years.
Come on.
You're playing us for fools here.
Best bet is not to post any further messages on this thread because not only do you fancy this woman - your denials are starting to ring even more hollow.
Originally posted by less'go
FWIW, people do have some choice about whether or not they act on certain urges or longings. Sounds like you are consciously making a choice to avoid a situation that would be ultimately very messy, and would cause a lot of pain all around.
Have you thought about just going away with your wife for the weekend instead of going riding with this couple at all? Indulge your own marriage a little, get things revving?
Screw going riding with this (albeit nice) woman who is clearly making the situation uncomfortable for your wife, and maybe getting you a little hot and bothered.
Inspire a little good loving from your good woman. She'll help you forget what was clouding your mind.
Maybe this will lead to positive changes in marriage and in cycling (?!?).
Thank you,
Dr. Ruth
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