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  1. This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.

    MY BEST FRIEND

    Nobody expects to have a road accident but they happen all the time...
    often with tragic results.

    Where I come from we do things a bit differently. Instead of having
    infant, junior and secondary schools we have lower, middle and upper.
    That means we don't go to our last school until we are 13. Some
    places just have to be different.

    When I was 13, we had just started Upper School in the September Term
    and by Christmas we just about knew are way round. It was three weeks
    before the Christmas holidays and everyone was excited about the
    Christmas production, Carol concerts and parties that were planned.
    You know how it gets at that time of year. All the nastiness had
    vanished, everyone was friends with everyone else, peace and goodwill
    and the real Christmas spirit was everywhere. In the middle of all
    this happiness came the worst day of my life. I suppose because
    everything else was going so well that made it worse.

    Like I say, it was three weeks before the holiday. We had spent all
    afternoon practicing for the production, we were doing Godspell, and
    singing carols. Finally the bell went and it was time to go home.
    Everyone piled out of school, it was dark already. The grass in front
    of school was covered with kids trying to find their friends,
    brothers, sisters, people to walk home with. I spotted a group of
    people I knew and went to join them. There were six of us altogether.
    Two of the lads had their bikes and were fooling about, weaving in and
    out of the crowds of people, pulling wheelies, that sort of thing.
    The road by our school was not very busy so I suppose what happened
    next must have been fate.

    The lad who lived over the road from me, my best friend, Ben, rode off
    the pavement and across the road. At that moment a car came over the
    hill and ploughed straight into him. I remember standing there just
    looking at him just lying in the road, half under the car, his bike
    mangled underneath him. I wanted to scream but my throat was frozen.
    I heard people around me running back to school to phone for an
    ambulance, but all I could do was stand and stare. My best friend was
    lying in the road and I couldn't move.

    The teachers came out and then made us go home. We walked down the
    street in silence. I couldn'r believe what had happened. The day
    before Ben and I had had a massive row about picking on my little
    brother. We hadn't spoken since and now this had happened to him.
    When I got home I saw Ben's mum driving off down the road. I knew
    where she was going. I went into the house and told my mum what had
    happened. She gave me a hug and told me not to worry, she was sure
    everything would be alright.

    I hardly slept that night. Every time I closed my eyes all I could
    see was Ben lying there under the car. The next morning there was a
    knock at the door. It was Matthew, Ben's brother. He said he was
    sorry to bother us but he had some bad news. Ben was dead. His brain
    had stopped working so his organs had been donated and all the
    machines turned off. I can't tell you how I felt at that moment. I
    sat down on the stairs and cried. I would never be able to say sorry
    for the silly fight we'd had, his Christmas present would stay
    upstairs under my bed, I would have to go to school on my own.

    I can't remember walking to school that day. I must have done because
    I can remember walking through the school gate. As I walked past his
    office, the head called out of the window to me. He asked if I'd
    heard how Ben was. What could I say? I know I started to cry again
    and I think I managed to get a few words out. "Ben's dead." I ran to
    my classroom and hid at the back. Telling the head was the first of
    many times I had to say those words that day. Ben's dead. Nobody
    seemed to know. It was a terrible day. When I got home I looked at
    Ben's house. All the Christmas decorations had been taken down.
    There was no reason for them to celebrate that year.

    The worst bit about it was that if Ben had been wearing a cycle helmet
    he would have been here today. Christmas would have been the happy
    family time it is supposed to be, and I would still have my best
    friend living across the road.

    www.stars.sandwell.gov.uk

    The story is not online.

  2. Tilly said:

    This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.


    <snip>

    Quoted message said:


    The story is not online.

    I am sure [email hidden] will be delighted to be
    enlightened though.

    --
    Tony

    "A facility for quotation covers the absence of original thought" Lord
    Peter Wimsey (Dorothy L. Sayers)

  3. On Thu, 12 May 2005 18:20:10 +0100, Tilly <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.

    Snip.

    Excellent, tell children a polystyrene hat will make then invulnerable
    to being crushed under cars, that will really help.

    Someone needs to be taken out the back and shot.

    "Bob"

    --

    Email address is spam trapped.
    To reply directly remove the beverage.

  4. "Call me Bob" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    On Thu, 12 May 2005 18:20:10 +0100, Tilly <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.

    Snip.

    Excellent, tell children a polystyrene hat will make then invulnerable
    to being crushed under cars, that will really help.

    Someone needs to be taken out the back and shot.

    Shooting's far to quick for scum like this.

    Quoted message said:

    "Bob"

    --

    Email address is spam trapped.
    To reply directly remove the beverage.

  5. "Tilly" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.

    Sandwell? the same council that produced a leaflet a couple of years ago
    aimed at young cyclists. It was riddled with mistakes, outright lies and
    bad practice. Nothing's changed then.

    Quoted message said:
  6. Tilly said:

    The lad who lived over the road from me, my best friend, Ben, rode off
    the pavement and across the road. At that moment a car came over the
    hill and ploughed straight into him. I remember standing there just
    looking at him just lying in the road, half under the car, his bike
    mangled underneath him. I wanted to scream but my throat was frozen.
    I heard people around me running back to school to phone for an
    ambulance, but all I could do was stand and stare. My best friend was
    lying in the road and I couldn't move.

    When I read this, I see it less as a warning about plastic hats, and more as
    a contribution to the Darwin Awards!

    Whatever happened to the Green Cross Code man? Worked for us.

    Pete.

  7. PeteC said:

    Whatever happened to the Green Cross Code man? Worked for us.

    Heck! Tufty the Squirrel was good enough for me!

  8. Simonb said:


    Heck! Tufty the Squirrel was good enough for me!

    A fellow Tufty Club member! Stop, look, listen.

    --
    Tony

    "A facility for quotation covers the absence of original thought" Lord
    Peter Wimsey (Dorothy L. Sayers)

  9. Simonb said:
    PeteC said:

    Whatever happened to the Green Cross Code man? Worked for us.

    Heck! Tufty the Squirrel was good enough for me!


    Blimey. You must be the same age as me.

    Al

  10. Tilly said:

    On Thu, 12 May 2005 18:20:10 +0100, Tilly <[email hidden]>
    wrote:

    An apology.

    Quoted message said:

    The worst bit about it was that if Ben had been wearing a cycle
    helmet he would have been here today. Christmas would have been the
    happy family time it is supposed to be, and I would still have my
    best friend living across the road.

    I edited the final paragraph to make the point of the story clear.

    It should read:

    The worst bit about this is that if Ben has stopped and looked before
    going on to the road, if he had been wearing a helmet, if he had
    thought about what he was doing, he would probably still be here today
    and Christmas would have been the happy, family time it is supposed to
    be, and I would still have my best friend living across the road.

    Of course Ben would still be here if he had looked or thought about
    what he was doing. A helmet makes little or no difference.

    I hope no one gets a red face from mis-quoting the story in any
    complaint.

    You edited the final paragraph to make a mountain out of a small hill.

    I'll just delete it from my outbox.

    --
    Andy Morris

    AndyAtJinkasDotFreeserve.Co.UK

    Love this:
    Put an end to Outlook Express's messy quotes
    http://home.in.tum.de/~jain/software/oe-quotefix/

  11. Tilly said:

    I hope no one gets a red face from mis-quoting the story in any
    complaint.

    You are an irresponsible idiot. You're the one that should have the red
    face.

    d.

  12. Tilly said:

    An apology.

    I was within seconds of sending this:

    "'if Ben had been wearing a cycle helmet
    he would have been here today' - if the driver had been driving
    responsibly, or if Ben had been educated in choosing suitable crossing
    points, the accident would have been avoided. Why not concentrate on the
    issues that *cause* accidents, rather than using demonstrably
    ineffective methods for minimizing injuries after the fact?"

    Don't do that again.

    --
    Mark.
    http://tranchant.plus.com/

  13. I've made a very subtle couple of edits. Should the message be any
    different?

    On 12/5/05 6:20 pm, in article [email hidden],
    "Tilly" <[email hidden]> wrote:

    This is a story in a magazine distributed by road safety officers to
    Year 6 pupils (11 year olds). It is produced by Sandwell Metropolitan
    Borough Council.

    MY BEST FRIEND

    Nobody expects to have a road accident but they happen all the time...
    often with tragic results.

    Where I come from we do things a bit differently. Instead of having
    infant, junior and secondary schools we have lower, middle and upper.
    That means we don't go to our last school until we are 13. Some
    places just have to be different.

    When I was 13, we had just started Upper School in the September Term
    and by Christmas we just about knew are way round. It was three weeks
    before the Christmas holidays and everyone was excited about the
    Christmas production, Carol concerts and parties that were planned.
    You know how it gets at that time of year. All the nastiness had
    vanished, everyone was friends with everyone else, peace and goodwill
    and the real Christmas spirit was everywhere. In the middle of all
    this happiness came the worst day of my life. I suppose because
    everything else was going so well that made it worse.

    Like I say, it was three weeks before the holiday. We had spent all
    afternoon practicing for the production, we were doing Godspell, and
    singing carols. Finally the bell went and it was time to go home.
    Everyone piled out of school, it was dark already. The grass in front
    of school was covered with kids trying to find their friends,
    brothers, sisters, people to walk home with. I spotted a group of
    people I knew and went to join them. There were six of us altogether.
    Two of the lads had their bikes and were fooling about, weaving in and
    out of the crowds of people, pulling wheelies, that sort of thing.
    The road by our school was not very busy so I suppose what happened
    next must have been fate.

    The lad who lived over the road from me, my best friend, Ben, ran off
    the pavement and across the road. At that moment a car came over the
    hill and ploughed straight into him. I remember standing there just
    looking at him just lying in the road, half under the car. I wanted to
    cream but my throat was frozen.
    I heard people around me running back to school to phone for an
    ambulance, but all I could do was stand and stare. My best friend was
    lying in the road and I couldn't move.

    The teachers came out and then made us go home. We walked down the
    street in silence. I couldn'r believe what had happened. The day
    before Ben and I had had a massive row about picking on my little
    brother. We hadn't spoken since and now this had happened to him.
    When I got home I saw Ben's mum driving off down the road. I knew
    where she was going. I went into the house and told my mum what had
    happened. She gave me a hug and told me not to worry, she was sure
    everything would be alright.

    I hardly slept that night. Every time I closed my eyes all I could
    see was Ben lying there under the car. The next morning there was a
    knock at the door. It was Matthew, Ben's brother. He said he was
    sorry to bother us but he had some bad news. Ben was dead. His brain
    had stopped working so his organs had been donated and all the
    machines turned off. I can't tell you how I felt at that moment. I
    sat down on the stairs and cried. I would never be able to say sorry
    for the silly fight we'd had, his Christmas present would stay
    upstairs under my bed, I would have to go to school on my own.

    I can't remember walking to school that day. I must have done because
    I can remember walking through the school gate. As I walked past his
    office, the head called out of the window to me. He asked if I'd
    heard how Ben was. What could I say? I know I started to cry again
    and I think I managed to get a few words out. "Ben's dead." I ran to
    my classroom and hid at the back. Telling the head was the first of
    many times I had to say those words that day. Ben's dead. Nobody
    seemed to know. It was a terrible day. When I got home I looked at
    Ben's house. All the Christmas decorations had been taken down.
    There was no reason for them to celebrate that year.

    The worst bit about it was that if Ben had been wearing a walking helmet
    he would have been here today. Christmas would have been the happy
    family time it is supposed to be, and I would still have my best
    friend living across the road.

  14. Al C-F said:
    Simonb said:
    PeteC said:

    Whatever happened to the Green Cross Code man? Worked for us.

    Heck! Tufty the Squirrel was good enough for me!


    Blimey. You must be the same age as me.

    Either that, or we were watching re-runs on the playschool projector.

  15. Mark Tranchant said:
    Tilly said:

    An apology.

    Quoted message said:

    I was within seconds of sending this:

    <snip>

    I'd sent a missive to Sandwell's road safety forum based on the
    inaccurate version. So now it'll look stupid, and possibly be counter
    productive.

    If you're quoting, quote. Don't edit.

    Quoted message said:

    Don't do that again.

    Absolutely. *very* stupid.

    Pete.
    --
    Peter Clinch Medical Physics IT Officer
    Tel 44 1382 660111 ext. 33637 Univ. of Dundee, Ninewells Hospital
    Fax 44 1382 640177 Dundee DD1 9SY Scotland UK
    net [email hidden] http://www.dundee.ac.uk/~pjclinch/

  16. Peter Clinch said:

    I'd sent a missive to Sandwell's road safety forum based on the
    inaccurate version. So now it'll look stupid, and possibly be
    counter productive.

    Same here. It was quite moderately worded fortunately.

    --
    Dave...

  17. Tilly said:


    On Thu, 12 May 2005 18:20:10 +0100, Tilly <[email hidden]>
    wrote:

    An apology.

    <snip>

    Quoted message said:


    I edited the final paragraph to make the point of the story clear.

    <snip>

    Quoted message said:

    I hope no one gets a red face from mis-quoting the story in any
    complaint.

    How completely irresponsible and stupid.
    And aren't you a teacher?

    Oh boy. It makes me want to weep.

    John B

  18. On Thu, 12 May 2005 18:44:46 +0100, Tony Raven <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    I am sure [email hidden] will be delighted to be
    enlightened though.

    Perhaps along the lines of:

    =====================================================================

    How refreshing that, despite the evidence to the contrary, you can
    state with such confidence that cycle helmets save lives.

    Please be sure to let Brian Walker know, he runs the company which
    tests helmets in the UK and is of the view that the number of
    fatalities which helmets might be expected to save is vanishingly
    small, if any at all. Nigel Mills, a staunch helmet advocate and
    renowned materials scientist, expressed the view in court that a
    helmet would not have made the difference in a case where a head
    impacted with flat tarmac, with an energy of not more than 75J.

    http://www.cyclehelmets.org/mf.html#1081

    "[...] where a cyclist has been in collision with a motorised vehicle,
    the impact energy potentials generated were of a level which
    outstripped those we use to certify Grand Prix drivers helmets."

    The evidence on helmets is so contradictory as to make it virtually
    impossible to make any firm statements following the unique
    statistical freak which is any individual cycle crash; however, I have
    never seen any evaluation of the relative merits of cycle safety
    interventions which puts helmets anywhere other than last.

    Mok et. al. demonstrated that children are prepared to take more risks
    when they perceive themselves to be protected by cycle helmets, an
    extension of work by Hillman which established similar patterns in
    adult cyclists. This theory of risk compensation is well known to
    safety activists through the work of John Adams and Gerald Wilde.

    What benefit do you see in giving children the idea that a cycle
    helmet will protect them in the event of a motor vehicle impact? In
    perpetuating the absurd fallacy that a helmet makes the difference
    between life and death? Around half the children killed riding
    bicycles don't even die of head injuries anyway, and of those who do
    an unknown proportion have other mortal injuries.

    I can see no good outcome from giving children an inflated idea of the
    efficacy of cycle helmets - or indeed of the dangers of cycling. I
    suppose the more uncritical may believe that anything which increases
    helmet wearing is necessarily good. The fact that there is no known
    case where this has led to improvements in cyclist safety may be
    written off as an inconvenience.

    So what would have made the difference in the "my best friend" story?
    How about: not riding off the pavement into the path of a car. Or,
    better still, not riding on the pavement in the first place, since
    that seems to be associated with much greater risk than riding on the
    carriageway. And if the car had been moving at 20mph or less the
    boy's injuries would probably not have been fatal. Cycle helmet?
    Post-hoc victim blaming of the worst kind.

    Guy
    --
    May contain traces of irony. Contents liable to settle after posting.
    http://www.chapmancentral.co.uk

    88% of helmet statistics are made up, 65% of them at CHS, Puget Sound

  19. Simonb said:

    Heck! Tufty the Squirrel was good enough for me!

    YMYA!

    Guy
    --
    May contain traces of irony. Contents liable to settle after posting.
    http://www.chapmancentral.co.uk

    88% of helmet statistics are made up, 65% of them at CHS, Puget Sound

  20. Geraint Jones said:

    Ahem, "At the kerb, halt; look right, look left, look
    right again; then if all clear - quick march!"

    Sadly no longer in my games collection, as a child I owned a Tufty board
    game. Needless to say, I was pretty good at my Kerb Drill!

    Pete.
    --
    Peter Clinch Medical Physics IT Officer
    Tel 44 1382 660111 ext. 33637 Univ. of Dundee, Ninewells Hospital
    Fax 44 1382 640177 Dundee DD1 9SY Scotland UK
    net [email hidden] http://www.dundee.ac.uk/~pjclinch/

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