hi, i just have some questions i'd be interested in hearing people's opinions/experiences with, regarding my dad's struggle with cancer. ** some history had shingles and was in a lot of pain pain with shingles persisted for a long time, then had chest pain and the doctor ordered some tests they basically found cancers in the right lung (about 3.5cm in size) and in various other bone areas (i.e. pelvis, ribs, neck area) - metastatic disease (?). he was admitted to hospital and was given a radium treatment, calcium extraction and then things started to get worse. currently he is very gaunt, having trouble breathing, blood clots have developed and he is becoming anemic and they've given him several blood transfusions but the blood keeps going bad. basically the specialists say that it is incurable and the best thing is keep him as comfortable as possible through pallative care. i guess i don't need to say how much my dad but i feel frustrated that basically that they are not going to do anything further to try and have a *chance* of "fixing" him - for want of a better term. i can understand why they are saying in that it further radium treatments, let alone chemo would probably either kill him or decrease the quality of life prior to death. they don't want to give him anti clotting drugs because they feel it will have other bad side effects (internal bleeding or make things worse). it seems to be a vicious circle of where one drug is used to treat one part of the problem, it then causes another bad reaction somewhere else. i guess i feel helpless after all the good things dad has done for me over my life and would like to hear other people's experiences/thoughts. if this is the wrong newsgroup to post to pls let me know.