Some Questions Dad With Cancer/Metastatic Disease

Discussion in 'Health and medical' started by Talisman, Jun 12, 2004.

  1. Talisman

    Talisman Guest

    hi,

    i just have some questions i'd be interested in hearing
    people's opinions/experiences with, regarding my dad's
    struggle with cancer.

    ** some history

    had shingles and was in a lot of pain

    pain with shingles persisted for a long time, then had chest
    pain and the doctor ordered some tests

    they basically found cancers in the right lung (about 3.5cm
    in size) and in various other bone areas (i.e. pelvis, ribs,
    neck area) - metastatic disease (?).

    he was admitted to hospital and was given a radium
    treatment, calcium extraction and then things started to
    get worse.

    currently he is very gaunt, having trouble breathing, blood
    clots have developed and he is becoming anemic and they've
    given him several blood transfusions but the blood keeps
    going bad.

    basically the specialists say that it is incurable and the
    best thing is keep him as comfortable as possible through
    pallative care.

    i guess i don't need to say how much my dad but i feel
    frustrated that basically that they are not going to do
    anything further to try and have a *chance* of "fixing" him
    - for want of a better term.

    i can understand why they are saying in that it further
    radium treatments, let alone chemo would probably either
    kill him or decrease the quality of life prior to death.

    they don't want to give him anti clotting drugs because they
    feel it will have other bad side effects (internal bleeding
    or make things worse).

    it seems to be a vicious circle of where one drug is used to
    treat one part of the problem, it then causes another bad
    reaction somewhere else.

    i guess i feel helpless after all the good things dad has
    done for me over my life and would like to hear other
    people's experiences/thoughts.

    if this is the wrong newsgroup to post to pls let me know.
     
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  2. talisman <[email protected]> wrote:

    > i guess i feel helpless after all the good things dad has
    > done for me over my life and would like to hear other
    > people's experiences/thoughts.

    I lost my mate, presumably to leukemia, and once I seperated
    the specific details concerning why she died from the basic
    reality of life/death cycles, I found I was no longer in
    conflict with the experience, and can point out that what
    you are going through is happening or will happen to
    everyone who outlives their parents or other family members.
    I also think the introspection that takes place under such
    circumstances can offer an opportunity for change and
    awareness, especially regarding social habits we accumulate
    that tend to negate rather than reinforce our minds and
    bodies over time. The disease paradigm that has been
    fomented by medical technology does not provide a blanket
    "answer" to living and dying, merely a response that is not
    necessarily appropriate in the aftermath of catastrophic
    health "failure". Do not be angry with doctors who are
    willing to be honest with you about what they can and can't
    do, it is pratically impossible to undo the ravages of time
    in an instant.

    > if this is the wrong newsgroup to post to pls let me know.

    There is a cancer support newsgroup that might be more
    suited to your needs, but you are welcome to learn more
    about advances in research and cancer treatment that
    encourage a more participatory and preventative approach to
    health and health care:

    http://www.vitaletherapeutics.org/vtlwhatr.htm

    --
    _o Kristofer Dale, _ \<,_ ragged individualist,
    _____( )/ ( )_____ statistic at large...

    p.s. Learn and live, http://www.vitaletherapeutics.org
     
  3. J

    J Guest

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