I guess I'm going to have to take the damn thing into the LBS. I took it apart like it says on the webpage at Park Tools.
The strange thing is when I took the nut and cap off it also brought the inside piece with it. Then I heard somethig fall. I turned the bike upside down and the nut inside the stem was falling back and forth freely in the stem.
So I took evertying apart, removed the brake, wheel, etc...I was able to get the spacer out and underneath that was the nut. I took it out, started the nut w/ the spacer and inside piece, then tapped it back into the stem and reassembled everything. All went well but now I really have some play. If the bike is sitting on the ground, on the wheels, and I hold the front brake then gently rock the bike back and forth I have a good amount of play in the front stem/fork area.
I took the bolt and cap back off and made sure there is a slight gap inbetween the top of the stem post and the handlebar stem, like the picture shows on Park Tools website. When I replace the bolt and cap and tighten I can see it sucking everything together like it's supposed to but there is still slack. I am getting this bolt pretty tight.
Any clues?