geardad said:
if I watch a bunch of doped up athletes competing,...
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remember the skit on saturday night live where they had 'the all drug olympics'? take whatever you want! it was a hilarious yet sadly rang a certain amount of real life.
drugs and doping are always going to be a part of any competition...even beta blockers to 'calm' one down in a shaprshooter's competition.
i stopped competing in cycling after i found out some of my cat riders were on the 'juice'. for me, it just wasnt worth it to juice up as well to compete to become a pro. though i love/loved competing...there is no real income unless you are at the very very top of the sport...and a lot of us already know what it takes for some to get up there.
is it all about money? for me, for the most part, i will say 'yes, to a certain degree. one has to be able to support themsleves'. please, i am not talking about serious recreational cycling, sport, club etc. i am talking about trying to scrape out a living by becoming a professional cyclist. very, very hard work...short career...very very little pay.
want another example? i am also a trained classical violinist. my nick is even a shortened version of carlo bergonzi...my favorite 18th century violin maker. how hard is it to make a 'good' living as a classical musician? probably about the same as being an elite world class cyclist. only a handful of violinists (most likely less than pro cyclsts) ever make it to where they can afford to purchase thir own instrument outright. most violinits have there multi-million dollar instruments on loan to them from wealthy patrons.
thus...
my very happily chosen profession is a practicing doctor. yes, a lot of very hard work but i love what i do and wouldnt trade anything for it. for me, it was much more effortless to become a doctor than a successful professional cyclist or musician.
as a parent myself...we as parents always want our children to be the 'best' and that they are, 'gifted' or 'unique', 'special', 'genius' and the list goes on.
in reality...most of us are and will be of the norm, the median and average. yeah, i sound like a wet towel but, sorry to burst any bubbles, that is the reality i see on a daily basis.
not all of us are destined to be average joes. one of my friends son's is a world series winning pitcher. yep, the mlb not little league. i asked him when he knew that his kid had the potential to be a pro pitcher? he said the scouts had their eyes on him since he was nine...but he still worked his butt off to get into the pros.
so, to make a long story short...greatness is evident at an early age. most of us parents dream that our kid is going to write the next great american novel, cure cancer or break multiple world records. it never ever hurts to try but true greatness is effortless to a certain degree.
i will use my kids as an example. dont get me wrong, i love them both dearly and would do anything for them!
both of them did not study for their SAT's...the older scored 1500 and the younger scored a 1580. 1600 is perfect. the older one went to UCLA (rated no 6 in the nation by us news) and graduated with a double major. the younger got into stanford (ties ucla for no 6 by us news) and gets a bachleors and masters from there.
both are gifted performing artists as well. playing piano at near performance level and voice. the younger also enjoys ballet. and to not want to sound like a proud parent...they are both very beautiful physically. i did not force them to do anything they did not want to do...nor will i take credit for their choice of attending the university they attended. i encouraged, supported and guided them as best i could. i also did the best i could to not foster conceit, narcism or egocentricity. it is/was a very tough balance.
all this natural high intelligence, gifting of the arts and so on...what do they end up doing in life? nothing. they do absolutely nothing in life.
am i disappointed? i would be lying if i said no. i have observed for the most part, that a successful individual is slef driven. encouragement helps a little but is usually not required. winners tend to 'do it on their own'.
so, to answer the question of what to say to your child if they want money to buy steroids or whatever to win at all costs? if they are old enough to understand about using steroids etc to increase the possibility of winning...they are old enough to hear my altered speech from 'pulp fiction'...'you have talent...but if you were going to make it...you would have made it by now...you came close...but youre not going to get there...enjoy what you are doing, try your hardest and know that i love you always'.
i know a lot of self declared genius'...they turn out to be annoying. and i know a lot of real genuis'...they are really weird and social outcasts. being 'normal' is not a crime...it is just a crime to those who are normal.
that was a long rant...but hopefully, it will make sense to some who read it.